Saturday, April 20, 2024

Buddy Benches Revealed at Village Elementary School: “Be a Buddy, Not a Bully”

This morning, at the Village Elementary Character Counts assembly, “Buddy Benches” were announced and revealed. They were funded in part through a grant from Voices Against Cruelty, Hatred and Intolerance (www.vachi.net) and built by a local boy scout, Jack Weers, from Coronado Troop 806 as his Eagle Project.

Above: Principal Whitney DeSantis, Joe Langerman, Amy Langerman, Jack Weers and Vice Principal Tom Bevilacqua stand while two students try out the bench.

One of the key goals of the benches is to promote inclusion and friendship in order to reduce the incidences of bullying. Research shows that many victims of bullying are alone or not social. Whether because of shyness, disability, being new to a school or social awkwardness, students who do not have a support system are at greater risk of being bullied.
The buddy bench provides an easy answer for those who may not have the social skills to build a social network on their own. Children who are new to the district (e.g. new military transfers), children with disabilities (e.g. Autism, Aspergers and other such disabilities), children who are shy, or a child whose one friend is absent, sick or moves (e.g. military transfer), can sit on the bench if they would like a “buddy”. Other children are taught to “be a buddy” and make a new friend. With a social network, not only are children more likely to want to come to school, and want to participate in school, they are more likely to be emotionally and physically safe at school. Bullies are less likely to bully in front of witnesses!
The charitable foundation that VACHI solicited for the funds for this grant (and a prior grant for $10,000 that was provided to the Coronado Schools Foundation in 2011 to fund tolerance programming and is currently used to fund the busses for the annual high school trip to the Museum of Tolerance).

Joe Langerman shared:

When I started VACHI 5 years ago at CHS, the mission was to educate students, teachers, parents and administrators about the consequences of hate motivated behavior. You can learn more about VACHI at our website – www.vachi.net. VACHI has raised funds through donations, and the sale of VACHI t-shirts and wristbands to support anti-bullying and tolerance programming in the district, including purchasing an entire antibullying curriculum for the elementary schools and helping to fund the busses for the annual Museum of Tolerance field trip.

I was very happy when Jack Weers and Boy Scout Troop 806 stepped up to build the benches as Jack’s Eagle project. I had suggested this in the original donation letter as I knew it would reduce the overall cost and free up some of the grant for additional Buddy Bench training and other tolerance programs in the district. The schools ultimately benefitted from the Boy Scout connection as there were additional funds to build a third buddy bench for Village Kindergarten. There was also something symbolic about the benches being built as an Eagle project as VACHI was my Eagle Project too!

Amy Langerman shared:

VACHI was my son’s (Joe Langerman) Eagle Project so is was amazing that another Scout wanted to continue the message that VACHI sought to bring to our community by building these buddy benches. My son, Joe, has continued to advance VACHI’s mission; while at College at the University of Redlands, Joe visited many of the local high schools, spoke to the “Big Buddies” group and even lead a full day of anti-bullying programs at a Charter School.

VACHI’s motto – “Hate Hurts – Think Before You Speak” is part of a global mission to end hate behavior. The Buddy Bench program is another weapon in the arsenal to protect students from bullying.

Below: Photo of Coronado Village Elementary School students that received a Character Counts award this morning.



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